Here you’ll find answers to some common questions concerning preparing for appointments about the person you care for.
As a carer for someone with a mental health condition, it can sometimes feel scary or daunting when you are attending appointments with medical professionals to discuss the care and support needs of the person you care for. Due to this, you may feel your emotions are heightened and this can often be a barrier to objectively addressing the important matters that you need help, advice or support with.
There may be information you want to provide and questions you may want to ask, however, with a little bit of effective preplanning, attending important appointments can be made more manageable.
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If you’ve outlined your objective(s) at the start of the appointment, it will be easier for you and the care team to stay focussed on those key points. But it is also worth considering that the care professionals, might also have a list of things they need to discuss with you.
In addition, having an advanced understanding of the type of appointment you will be attending, how many people will be present and the format of the appointment can also be helpful in thinking about your objectives.
This could include any test results, notes from appointments with other specialists and any other letters that you might have received a copy of which are relevant to your objective(s).
Write down anything that needs to be raised during the consultation in advance. This may include; changes in behaviour or symptoms you have noticed in the person you care for, concerns or queries about medication, questions about tests that are due or you would like to request, or simply something you would like to get the care teams’ opinion on.
Write down key dates of important events or relevant information. Also it is worth considering if it would be helpful to highlight any concerns or worries you have regarding your caring role, that have not been discussed previously. Don’t be afraid to make notes during the appointment and don’t be afraid to provide notes that you have made in advance to the person who is facilitating the meeting/ appointment.
Trying to keep anxious feelings in check can be very helpful. So it is worth investing some time to prepare yourself. Taking four deep steady breaths can often help manage those anxious physical symptoms before attending appointments. Also preparing for the fact that you may have to ask some challenging questions or talk about things that can be difficult. Running through these scenarios by talking to someone you feel comfortable with (a relation or friend) in advance may be beneficial and may help you feel more prepared. If you have a good relationship with one of the care team, ask if you can sit with them or if they can provide some support for you. Do let the team know if you feel uncomfortable or need to take a break.
If you are supporting the person you care for during the appointment, it is useful to have a discussion regarding what they want to get out of the appointment and how much they want you to speak for them (if this is possible). Inform the care professional(s) if you hold lasting power of attorney or have consent to speak on the persons’ behalf.
Talk to someone you trust, this could be a parent, teacher, teaching assistant, mentor or any other trusted adult. Tell them what’s happening and how it is making you feel. If you don’t feel like you can do that, you could talk to friends or call an organisation like Childline on 0800 11 11 or visit childline.org.uk. If you are being targeted online, report it using the “report abuse” button on the app or website.